From first-year grad students Jessica Voors.
My friends and I were talking about these deaths yesterday, as a blog I follow, reported Tyler Clementi's death as the 5th suicide by young gay youth in September.
September 9th: Billy Lucas, 15, in Indiana, killled himself over anti-gay bullying.
September 13th: Cody Barker, 17, in Wisconsin, killed himself over anti-gay bullying.
September 18th: Seth Walsh, 13, in California, hanged himself over to anti-gay bullying, then spent ten days on life support before being pronounced dead on September 28th.
September 23rd: Asher Brown, 13, in Houston, TX, killed himself over to anti-gay bullying.
September 29th: Tyler Clementi, 18, of Ridgewood, NJ is dead after jumping from the George Washington Bridge after being humiliated online for his sexual orientation.
It is terrible and horrifying that this is happening! It is good to know that there are resources out there for lgbt folks on campus. You may know about this project already, but Dan Savage has launched a project in response to the death of Billy Lucas, called It Gets Better, which is a video project of gay adults talking to youth about the fact that it will get better and telling them that they need to live for it to do so. They tell stories about what it was like when they were growing up, and in general encouraging gay youth and letting them know that it is okay. Check it out: http://www.youtube.com/user/itgetsbetterproject
Dan Savage's personal video with his partner: http://www.youtube.com/user/itgetsbetterproject#p/f/0/7IcVyvg2Qlo
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Sad news in the LGBTQA community
Hello One Project Terps,
By now I hope you have heard about Tyler Clementi, the male student at Rutgers who jumped off of the GW bridge which connects NY and NJ over the Hudson River. He jumped because his roommate filmed him with making out with another guy in his room and live-fed it on the internet. You can read more about it on CNN.com here.
What you may not know is that this is the third gay young adult who has committed suicide in the last three weeks because of bullying or harassment at their k-12 school or college.
Creating a supportive community and safe environment for LGBTQ students on campus is one of my goals with starting The One Project and I am so happy that you are all a part of this, what I think, very important group of supportive and caring people.
I hope that as LGBTQA people on campus, you will actively support each other and actively stop any instances of hatred towards our community or other underrepresented communities. It is extremely important at this time that we are there for each other and to know that we don't have to resort to suicide or other self-inflicted injury if we are struggling.
I am here for you. Chelsea is here for you. There are many, many resources on campus as well including the most prominent LGBT resource in the Office of LGBT Equity located in Cole Field House. If you ever need anything, please feel free to talk with any of us at any time and please be proactive in reporting acts of hatred towards others on campus.
We care about all of you deeply.
RESOURCES
Dian Squire1102 Cole Field House
Dsquire@umd.edu
301-254-3975 (h)/301-314-8212 (w)
Chelsea Truesdel1102 Cole Field House
ctruesde@umd.edu
301-314-8214
Luke Jensen/Nick SakuraiOffice of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Equity
0119 Cole Student Activities Building
University of Maryland
College Park, MD 20742
tel: 301.405.8720
email: lgbt@umd.edu
Help Center
Talk with a student counselor anonymously about any problem or concern you may have
301-314-HELP (4357)
Rainbow Walk-in Hour
The Counseling Center's Rainbow Walk-In Hour is a program designed specifically for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered (LGBT) students or students from LGBT headed families. This program, offered by the Counseling Service, was created to meet the immediate emotional-social and educational-career needs of LGBT students or students from LGBT headed families. Students using the service are not required to schedule an appointment in advance, allowing for immediate assistance in dealing with the student's concern.
Take care Terps!
Regards,
Dian
By now I hope you have heard about Tyler Clementi, the male student at Rutgers who jumped off of the GW bridge which connects NY and NJ over the Hudson River. He jumped because his roommate filmed him with making out with another guy in his room and live-fed it on the internet. You can read more about it on CNN.com here.
What you may not know is that this is the third gay young adult who has committed suicide in the last three weeks because of bullying or harassment at their k-12 school or college.
Creating a supportive community and safe environment for LGBTQ students on campus is one of my goals with starting The One Project and I am so happy that you are all a part of this, what I think, very important group of supportive and caring people.
I hope that as LGBTQA people on campus, you will actively support each other and actively stop any instances of hatred towards our community or other underrepresented communities. It is extremely important at this time that we are there for each other and to know that we don't have to resort to suicide or other self-inflicted injury if we are struggling.
I am here for you. Chelsea is here for you. There are many, many resources on campus as well including the most prominent LGBT resource in the Office of LGBT Equity located in Cole Field House. If you ever need anything, please feel free to talk with any of us at any time and please be proactive in reporting acts of hatred towards others on campus.
We care about all of you deeply.
RESOURCES
Dian Squire1102 Cole Field House
Dsquire@umd.edu
301-254-3975 (h)/301-314-8212 (w)
Chelsea Truesdel1102 Cole Field House
ctruesde@umd.edu
301-314-8214
Luke Jensen/Nick SakuraiOffice of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Equity
0119 Cole Student Activities Building
University of Maryland
College Park, MD 20742
tel: 301.405.8720
email: lgbt@umd.edu
Help Center
Talk with a student counselor anonymously about any problem or concern you may have
301-314-HELP (4357)
Rainbow Walk-in Hour
The Counseling Center's Rainbow Walk-In Hour is a program designed specifically for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered (LGBT) students or students from LGBT headed families. This program, offered by the Counseling Service, was created to meet the immediate emotional-social and educational-career needs of LGBT students or students from LGBT headed families. Students using the service are not required to schedule an appointment in advance, allowing for immediate assistance in dealing with the student's concern.
It is not uncommon for LGBT-involved students to be reluctant to reach out for help for fear of prejudice, discrimination, and/or attempts at conversion therapy. One of the purposes of this program is to make the Center's services feel safer for those in the LGBT community. To ensure a safe setting, the Rainbow Walk-In Hour is staffed with LGBT friendly psychologists and advanced trainees
The Rainbow Walk-In Hour operates Monday through Thursday from 3 to 4 pm. Ideally, students will come in ten minutes before each Walk-In Hour to complete the standard paperwork. Students can come to the Center on their own or be referred by faculty or staff from various campus offices (e.g., the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Equity Office; the Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Staff and Faculty Association; Office of Resident Life).
The Rainbow Walk-In Hour operates Monday through Thursday from 3 to 4 pm. Ideally, students will come in ten minutes before each Walk-In Hour to complete the standard paperwork. Students can come to the Center on their own or be referred by faculty or staff from various campus offices (e.g., the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Equity Office; the Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Staff and Faculty Association; Office of Resident Life).
Take care Terps!
Regards,
Dian
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Rutgers Freshman Commits Suicide After Students Out Him As Gay
http://www.truthwinsout.org/blog/2010/09/11610/
Posted September 29th, 2010 by Evan Hurst
College students aren’t immune, it seems:
Jesus. How many more?
By the way: check out the Twitter pages for the National Organization for Marriage and OneMan-OneWoman.org today. It’s good to see that they’re as broken up about dead kids as we are.
Posted September 29th, 2010 by Evan Hurst
A Rutgers University freshman posted a goodbye message on his Facebook page before jumping to his death after his roommate secretly filmed him during a “sexual encounter” in his dorm room and posted it live on the Internet.
Items belonging to 18-year-old Rutgers student Tyler Clementi were found by the George Washington Bridge last week, according to authorities. Clementi’s freshman ID card and driver’s license were in the wallet.Clementi’s post on his Facebook page, dated Sept. 22 at 8:42 p.m. read, “Jumping off the gw bridge sorry.”[...]Paul Mainardi, the attorney representing the Clementi family, released a statement confirming Clementi’s suicide.“Tyler was a fine young man, and a distinguished musician. The family is heartbroken beyond words. They respectfully request that they be given time to grieve their great loss and that their privacy at this painful time be respected by all,” Mainardi said.Two students, Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei, have been charged with two counts each of invasion of privacy after allegedly placing a camera in Clementi’s room and livestreaming the recording online on Sept. 19, according to a written statement by New Jersey’s Middlesex County Prosecutor Bruce Kaplan.
Garden State Equality released the following statement:
So are we. NorthJersey.com has more background on Tyler, who was, of course, described as well-loved by all, musically gifted, shy and kind. Sounds like me at that age.Garden State EqualityAll of us at Garden State Equality are in a state of shock over one of the most unconscionable, hate-related deaths of a student in the history of the State of New Jersey. Today we learned that a Rutgers freshman committed suicide by jumping off the George Washington Bridge after his roommate and other students apparently broadcast the freshman – without his knowledge – making out with another man. According to reports, the other students disseminated the video widely by Twitter. The freshman was seemingly so distraught, he leapt to his death.
For immediate release
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Statement of Garden State Equality Chair Steven Goldstein
There are no words sufficient to express our range of feelings today. We are outraged at the perpetrators. We are heartbroken over the tragic loss of a young man who, by all accounts, was brilliant, talented and kind. And we are sickened that anyone in our society, such as the students allegedly responsible for making the surreptitious video, might consider destroying others’ lives as a sport. As this case makes its way through the legal system, we can only hope the alleged perpetrators receive the maximum possible sentence.
That the victim’s roommate was also a freshman, just months out of high school, demonstrates once again that our high schools are not doing enough to educate their students that harassment, intimidation and bullying of other students is unacceptable in every instance. It is grotesque to think that people such as these alleged perpetrators went onto college without, apparently, ever having been taught basic life lessons of decency – and that they made their way through the educational system before allegedly committing this unconscionable act.
Garden State Equality is currently working on a new anti-school bullying bill that if enacted, would be the nation’s strongest such law. It would follow the three anti-bullying laws the state has enacted since 2002, all of which include bullying based on sexual orientation and gender identity and expression.
We have also reached out to the Rutgers University administration and LGBT campus groups. We will keep you apprised of developments.
We are sickened.
Jesus. How many more?
By the way: check out the Twitter pages for the National Organization for Marriage and OneMan-OneWoman.org today. It’s good to see that they’re as broken up about dead kids as we are.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Have questions about sex?
The SHARE (Sexual Health And Reproductive Education) peer educators are now available real-time for you to talk with. The best part? It's anonymous! Just log on to www.aim.com and message us! Our screen name is SHAREpeered.
Our trained peer educators can answer many of your sexual health questions-and you don't have to come in to an office to talk with them! Want to know what's involved in a pelvic exam? Have a question about STI's? Need information about contraception?
Well, here's your chance to ask!
Our peer educators are available Monday-Friday at the following times:
Mondays: 12pm-1pm
Tuesdays: 3pm-4pm
Wednesdays: 9am-10am AND 11am-12pm
Thursdays: 2pm-3pm
Fridays: 11am-12pm AND 12pm-1pm
*The schedule will remain the same for the entire Fall semester.
Website: www.health.umd.edu/healthpromotion/sexualhealth#SHARE%20Live%20Chat
For more information, contact:
Alli B. Matson
University Health Center
+1 301 314 8130
amatson@health.umd.edu
Our trained peer educators can answer many of your sexual health questions-and you don't have to come in to an office to talk with them! Want to know what's involved in a pelvic exam? Have a question about STI's? Need information about contraception?
Well, here's your chance to ask!
Our peer educators are available Monday-Friday at the following times:
Mondays: 12pm-1pm
Tuesdays: 3pm-4pm
Wednesdays: 9am-10am AND 11am-12pm
Thursdays: 2pm-3pm
Fridays: 11am-12pm AND 12pm-1pm
*The schedule will remain the same for the entire Fall semester.
Website: www.health.umd.edu/healthpromotion/sexualhealth#SHARE%20Live%20Chat
For more information, contact:
Alli B. Matson
University Health Center
+1 301 314 8130
amatson@health.umd.edu
Monday, September 27, 2010
The L in LGBTQA
Tonight we had our first in a six-part series called The L in LGBTQA. The other parts are obviously, The G, The B, The T, The Q and The A.
We had Danielle Nied, Resident Director of Centreville Hall and Mercedes Hightower, Senior, as our discussion facilitators. We had a decent turn out and as we had a few new people join us as well. It's always nice to see new faces in the crowd and to know that we are reaching a wide range of students. One said she came because she saw our poster, another was just learning about lesbians because she is in an LGBT lit course, one wanted to meet some people and we had a grad student come as well.
We talked a lot about language. Mercedes said she liked the term Dyke, and didn't refer to herself as Lesbian. I think this is interesting because I always assumed this help negative connotations. We also talked about stud, dom, butch, lipstick lesbian, queer, sub and maybe a few more. It was a good discussion and once again proved that you never know what to really call anybody until they tell you.
We also talked about breaking some stereotypes especially one that we talked about at our last event that lesbians move in together on the second date. It seemed that the room was split as to if that was a true stereotype or not.
All in all, it was a good event. I hope our attendees enjoyed it.
On Monday we head into DC again to volunteer at the DC Center. Free pizza will be served. We'll be packing safe sex kits and helping out around the center.
We had Danielle Nied, Resident Director of Centreville Hall and Mercedes Hightower, Senior, as our discussion facilitators. We had a decent turn out and as we had a few new people join us as well. It's always nice to see new faces in the crowd and to know that we are reaching a wide range of students. One said she came because she saw our poster, another was just learning about lesbians because she is in an LGBT lit course, one wanted to meet some people and we had a grad student come as well.
We talked a lot about language. Mercedes said she liked the term Dyke, and didn't refer to herself as Lesbian. I think this is interesting because I always assumed this help negative connotations. We also talked about stud, dom, butch, lipstick lesbian, queer, sub and maybe a few more. It was a good discussion and once again proved that you never know what to really call anybody until they tell you.
We also talked about breaking some stereotypes especially one that we talked about at our last event that lesbians move in together on the second date. It seemed that the room was split as to if that was a true stereotype or not.
All in all, it was a good event. I hope our attendees enjoyed it.
On Monday we head into DC again to volunteer at the DC Center. Free pizza will be served. We'll be packing safe sex kits and helping out around the center.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Drugs, Sex and Rock n' Roll
As the coordinator of The One Project, I am always nervous to see who is going to show up to our events. This is the first year of The One Project and it's hard to gauge right now what is working and what is not working. What is definitely working though is that students are showing up! Every time we hold an event, we have a few people who are regulars and then there are always a few new people who attend as well. This is great news!!
Last night we held our first educational event, Drugs, Sex and Rock n' Roll, a discussion on the role that drugs, sex and partying have in the LGBTQA community. I think it was a great discussion that brought up issues of the most common drugs found in specific populations (gay v. lesbian) and differences in straight v. gay social life. The role that HIV plays in our community and how people are experiencing that epidemic.
Did you know that 1 in 20 people in DC has HIV/AIDs? That's a high number!!
Keving Nunley from the Speaker's Bureau at The DC Center, a LGBT resource center, in Washington, DC came out to facilitate our discussion and provided us with a lot of great information to talk about and discuss outside of this venue.
I hope that the students who attended got some great information, met some new people and will begin to talk with their friends about safe choices the next time they decide to go out and party.
Last night we held our first educational event, Drugs, Sex and Rock n' Roll, a discussion on the role that drugs, sex and partying have in the LGBTQA community. I think it was a great discussion that brought up issues of the most common drugs found in specific populations (gay v. lesbian) and differences in straight v. gay social life. The role that HIV plays in our community and how people are experiencing that epidemic.
Did you know that 1 in 20 people in DC has HIV/AIDs? That's a high number!!
Keving Nunley from the Speaker's Bureau at The DC Center, a LGBT resource center, in Washington, DC came out to facilitate our discussion and provided us with a lot of great information to talk about and discuss outside of this venue.
I hope that the students who attended got some great information, met some new people and will begin to talk with their friends about safe choices the next time they decide to go out and party.
Stamp All-Niter
Looking to meet some friends, have some fun, eat some food and stay up all night!? Check out the stamp all niter. It is a yearly all-night event that takes place in the Stamp Union. You can check out the website here http://www.stampunion.umd.edu/allniter/
Almost everything is free and everything is fun!!!
Almost everything is free and everything is fun!!!
| Room | Activity | Organization Assigned | Time |
| Activities Room | Freestyle & Cipher | Undergrounduates | 7-2 a.m. |
| Atrium | Burlesque Show | Pride Alliance | 9-11pm |
| Baltimore Room | A Cappella Groups/Comedy Group | All Niter | 8-12am |
| Benjamin Banneker A | Playdough Stress Relief | Help Center | 8-10pm |
| Benjamin Banneker B | The Time to be Heard is NOW! | Mary PIRG | |
| Calvert | Staff Lounge | All Niter | |
| Charles Carroll | |||
| Colony Ballroom | Virtual Reality Games | All Niter | |
| Edgar Allen Poe | Tarot Cards | Pagan Student Union | |
| Food Court | Dance Demonstrations | All Niter | |
| Food Court | Dance Demonsrations | All Niter | |
| Food Court | Black Belt Demonstration | Black Belt Club | |
| Food Court | Dance Performances | Revolutions Dance Ensemble | |
| Front Patio | Flaming Jugglers! | Juggling Club | |
| Grand Ballroom | Poker Tournament | Fraternity and Sorority Life | |
| Grand Ballroom Lounge | Corn Hole Tournament | Fraternity and Sorority Life | |
| Harriet Tubman | |||
| Hoff Theater | Kenya Safari Acrobats | Student Entertainment Events | |
| Information Booth A | The Bhagavad Gita Club | Information | |
| Information Booth B | |||
| Information Booth C | |||
| Juan Ramon Jimenez | JDCY Open Mic Showcase | Justice for DC Youth | |
| Margaret Brent A | Live Action Mario Cart Party | Gamer Symphony Orchestra | |
| Margaret Brent B | Live Action Mario Cart Party | Gamer Symphony Orchestra | |
| Maryland Food Co-Op | Pancake Breakfast and Dance Party | All Niter and Maryland Food Co-op | 11-2 a.m. |
| MICA Office | MICA Open House | Multicultural Involvement and Community Advocacy | 4:30-7 p.m. |
| Prince Georges | Ballroom at Maryland Demo | Ballroom at Maryland | |
| Pyon Su | Anime Showcase | Terrapin Anime Society | |
| Reading Room | Play it Again in 2010 Karaoke | Homecoming Committee | 8-11 p.m. |
| Reading Room | Fortune Teller | All Niter | |
| TerpZone | 1/2 Off Bowling and Billiards | TerpZone | 7-12 a.m. |
| TerpZone | 50¢ Drinks and Snacks | TerpZone | 7-11 p.m. |
| Terrapin Room A | Eschelon Dressing Room | Eschelon Fashion Society | |
| Thurgood Marshall | Video Room | Terrapin Video Productions |
Thursday, September 16, 2010
First Look Fair Success, first program, and finding
Yesterday and today were the First Look Fair. A chance for all students to come out and find out great ways to get involved, meet new friends and build campus camaraderie. It was great seeing students involved in The One Project across campus and getting involved in a lot of great activities LGBT-related and not. We're excited to have our first official The One Project Event this Saturday. We are only a couple miles outside of DC and a lot of students don't take advantage of our locale. It's also a but intimidating if you are from a city that may not have public transportation or be as big. So we are going to head into the city, eat in Chinatown and hang out on the mall and see some of the Smithsonian Museums. I think this will be a great time to bond and meet some new people hopefully.
On a lesser note, I just read this short article from The Chronicle of Higher Education. Take a read:
The report, "The 2010 State of Higher Education for LGBT People," was based on a survey conducted by the Q Research Institute for Higher Education, which is run by the advocacy group Campus Pride in partnership with Iowa State and Pennsylvania State Universities. The survey drew on responses from 5,150 people—primarily those who described themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender but also heterosexual "allies"—in the spring of 2009 at about 100 institutions nationwide.
About a quarter of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer students and employees said they had experienced harassment, as did more than a third of transgender and "gender nonconforming" respondents, compared with 12 percent of heterosexuals.
Seventy percent of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer students and employees felt comfortable with the overall campus climate, the report says, a rate that was higher than that among transgender and gender-nonconforming respondents but lower than that of heterosexuals. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer students who were also members of racial minority groups felt less comfortable in their classes than did their white counterparts, and faculty members were more likely than were students and staff members to have considered leaving their institutions, the report says.
"Colleges and universities have the responsibility to create safe learning environments for everyone, regardless of sexual identity or gender identity," Shane Windmeyer, executive director of Campus Pride, said in a written statement. "Now is the time to act."
The report offers a series of recommendations for institutions to improve their campus climates, a step that it says will lead to better learning outcomes for students and professional development for employees. Among more than six dozen recommendations, the report says colleges should:
On a lesser note, I just read this short article from The Chronicle of Higher Education. Take a read:
Gay Students and College Employees Face Significant Harassment, Report Says
By Sara Lipka
Whether they are students, staff members, professors, or administrators, people who identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender report significant harassment at their colleges and discomfort with the overall campus climates, according to a new national report.The report, "The 2010 State of Higher Education for LGBT People," was based on a survey conducted by the Q Research Institute for Higher Education, which is run by the advocacy group Campus Pride in partnership with Iowa State and Pennsylvania State Universities. The survey drew on responses from 5,150 people—primarily those who described themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender but also heterosexual "allies"—in the spring of 2009 at about 100 institutions nationwide.
About a quarter of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer students and employees said they had experienced harassment, as did more than a third of transgender and "gender nonconforming" respondents, compared with 12 percent of heterosexuals.
Seventy percent of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer students and employees felt comfortable with the overall campus climate, the report says, a rate that was higher than that among transgender and gender-nonconforming respondents but lower than that of heterosexuals. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer students who were also members of racial minority groups felt less comfortable in their classes than did their white counterparts, and faculty members were more likely than were students and staff members to have considered leaving their institutions, the report says.
"Colleges and universities have the responsibility to create safe learning environments for everyone, regardless of sexual identity or gender identity," Shane Windmeyer, executive director of Campus Pride, said in a written statement. "Now is the time to act."
The report offers a series of recommendations for institutions to improve their campus climates, a step that it says will lead to better learning outcomes for students and professional development for employees. Among more than six dozen recommendations, the report says colleges should:
- Include sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression in institutional nondiscrimination statements.
- Extend health-insurance coverage to employees' same-sex partners.
- Establish a resource center with a full-time professional staff member for gender and sexuality education and support.
- Provide gender and sexuality training to athletic-department, public-safety, and residence-life staff members.
- Distribute a pamphlet to faculty members about inclusive language in the classroom.
- Offer a clear, visible procedure for reporting incidents of bias.
- Recruit and provide scholarships for prospective lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender students, and develop a peer-mentoring program for new students.
- Offer students who don't describe themselves as male or female the ability to self-identify on applications for admission and housing, as well as other forms, and allow students and employees to change their gender designation on records.
- Offer gender-neutral housing and restrooms, as well as a "matching program" for students to be placed with gay-friendly roommates.
- Create gender- and sexuality-related support groups in the counseling center.
- Develop an alumni group for graduates who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Repost: Kids Learn About Gays or Kids Kill Themselves
Today Zack Ford posted this on his blog and I thought it was appropriate to share with our community. These numbers and incidences are why we have The One Project. We hope that this never happens at the university of Maryland and we at The One Project will continue to work hard for our LGBTQA students.
Original post here.
Kids Learn About Gays or Kids Kill Themselves
September 14, 2010 at 3:50 pm - Discuss: No Comments
Filed In: Queer Issues on Campus, Queer Mythology, Queer Rights
Gays are pedophiles (the Catholic Church still thinks so). (Also still: Trans women are just men who want to molest little girls in the bathroom.) Gays want to kidnap kids. Gays want to recruit kids. Gays want to teach kids to be gay. Gays want to teach kids about gay sex. Gays want to teach kids about gay marriage. Gays want to teach kids that gay people exist.
Now, the last two don’t sound so bad, but they are always presented in a way to insinuate the old language. The message is the same: gays are evil and our kids are at risk. We’ve got to protect them!
Today we learned about a number of teenage suicides that were fomented by anti-gay bullying. Justin Aaberg of Minnesota hung himself in July. Billy Lucas of Indiana hung himself just last week. Both were 15. (Hat tip to Towleroad for reporting on each: here and here.)
It seems that students were relentless at tormenting Billy Lucas while teachers and administrators were oblivious.
According to WTHR:
Friends of Lucas say that he had been tormented for years.“Some people at school called him names,” Hughes said, saying most of those names questioned Lucas’ sexual orientation, and that Lucas, for the most part, did little to defend himself.
“He would try to but people would just try to break him down with words and stuff and just pick on him,” Hughes said.
According to WXIN:
Students told Fox59 News it was common knowledge that children bullied Billy and from what they said, it was getting worse. Last Thursday, Billy’s mother found him dead inside their barn. He had hung himself.
Students said on that same day, some students told Billy to kill himself.
“They said stuff like ‘you’re like a piece of crap’ and ‘you don’t deserve to live.’ Different things like that. Talked about how he was gay or whatever,” said Swango.
Principal Phil Chapple doesn’t deny that students are bullied in the high school, but he said he didn’t know Billy was one of the victims.
“We were not aware of that situation,” said Chapple.

The case of Justin Aaberg reveals how school teachers can be so oblivious to gay bullying: because they’re instructed to.
As reported by WCCO, The Anoka-Hennepin School District has a policy that reads:
Teaching about sexual orientation is not a part of the District adopted curriculum; rather, such matters are best addressed within individual family homes, churches, or community organizations.How horrid is that? A school refuses to teach about a natural part of human diversity and leaves it to the community to continue reinforcing all the negative messages that aren’t based on truth.
And will the school change its curriculum policy? No.
The Anoka-Hennepin School District said the curriculum policy and bullying are two entirely separate issues.Remain neutral. A kid was harassed to such an extent that he didn’t think his life was worth living and teachers have to remain neutral to “respect families.”
“It’s very difficult. We have a community that has widely varying opinions, and so to respect all families, as the policy says, we ask teachers to remain neutral,” said District Spokeswoman Mary Olson.
Read it again. That is the world we live in. That is enshrined homophobia. That is a policy that represents fear motivated by demonization.
Incidentally, GLSEN today published the key findings of its 2009 National School Climate Survey.
Here are some chilling numbers for you:
84.6% of LGBT students reported being verbally harassed, 40.1% reported being physically harassed and 18.8% reported being physically assaulted at school in the past year because of their sexual orientation.That’s last year. Not 1985; 2009. It makes me ill just thinking about it. And what did the study find worked at helping reducing these numbers? In addition to having a GSA,
63.7% of LGBT students reported being verbally harassed, 27.2% reported being physically harassed and 12.5% reported being physically assaulted at school in the past year because of their gender expression.
72.4% heard homophobic remarks, such as “faggot” or “dyke,” frequently or often at school.
Nearly two-thirds (61.1%) of students reported that they felt unsafe in school because of their sexual orientation, and more than a third (39.9%) felt unsafe because of their gender expression.
The presence of supportive staff contributed to a range of positive indicators including fewer reports of missing school, fewer reports of feeling unsafe, greater academic achievement, higher educational aspirations and a greater sense of school belonging.
Students attending schools with an anti-bullying policy that included protections based on sexual orientation and/or gender identity/expression heard fewer homophobic remarks, experienced lower levels of victimization related to their sexual orientation, were more likely to report that staff intervened when hearing homophobic remarks and were more likely to report incidents of harassment and assault to school staff than students at schools with a general policy or no policy.But unfortunately:
Despite the positive benefits of these interventions, less than a half of LGBT students (44.6%) reported having a Gay-Straight Alliance at school, slightly more than half (53.4%) could identify six or more supportive educators and less than a fifth (18.2%) attended a school that had a comprehensive anti-bullying policy.What’s worse, we know that these numbers translate into higher education as well. A new study, “State of Higher Education for LGBT People” is being released this month that shows young people continue to experience harassment for sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression on our college campuses.
83% of LGBT college students reported experiencing harassment for their sexual identity, with numbers even higher for students who were trans-identified. In fact, 87% of trans-masculine identified individuals reported experience harassment for their gender expression with 82% of trans-feminine identified individuals reporting similar harassment.
The problem here is that our schools aren’t educating. We aren’t willing to talk about what we know. Gender and sexuality are a part of who humans are, but we refuse to dispense uniform informed information to our young people. Out of “respect,” we prefer to let stereotypes and fear persist.
This is a crime against our society, and the deaths of Billy Lucas and Justin Aaberg rest on the shoulders of groups like Focus on the Family who insist that sexual orientation not be taught in our schools.
So you get to pick. Do we teach kids about the realities of the world or do we sustain the ignorance that drains them of all meaning to live?
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
First Day of School
Yesterday we had our first UNIV100 class. Today we will meet our second section. So far, we have 13 students total that are enrolled in both classes. It is far short of what we had hoped, but there are a lot of institutional barriers that we won't ever be able to break through to get the mass of students we really want.
Either way we are really excited to get started and to meet our students and help them have a great time here at Maryland. We have some good things lined up for the semester and are still really excited for all of our events.
We have our first meeting with our first set of presenters for The L in LGBTQA, Danielle Nied and Mercedes Hightower. I think they are going to be a good pairing and come highly recommended. That presentation takes place on September 22. And it will be our first real test to see if people are actually going to show up.
Lastly, I have a bunch of students who work with the Help Center. They sent out this note yesterday that I wanted to pass along to my LGBTQA friends. Sometimes it can hard transitioning and making friends. Sometimes we don't know where to turn or who to talk to. The Help Center is a great place to call to talk to fellow students about whatever you need to talk about. Their information is below:
The first week of school can be stressful and overwhelming, especially as a
Either way we are really excited to get started and to meet our students and help them have a great time here at Maryland. We have some good things lined up for the semester and are still really excited for all of our events.
We have our first meeting with our first set of presenters for The L in LGBTQA, Danielle Nied and Mercedes Hightower. I think they are going to be a good pairing and come highly recommended. That presentation takes place on September 22. And it will be our first real test to see if people are actually going to show up.
Lastly, I have a bunch of students who work with the Help Center. They sent out this note yesterday that I wanted to pass along to my LGBTQA friends. Sometimes it can hard transitioning and making friends. Sometimes we don't know where to turn or who to talk to. The Help Center is a great place to call to talk to fellow students about whatever you need to talk about. Their information is below:
The first week of school can be stressful and overwhelming, especially as a
Freshman being thrown into such a new environment. If you want to talk
about anything, anything at all, call the Help Center at 301-314-HELP.
Talking with students for 40 years, Help Center is UMD's Peer Counseling
... and Crisis Intervention Hotline. No issue is too big or too small to
talk about. M-Th 2pm-2am, F 2pm-10pm, Sa-Su 4pm-12am.
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